I think Kelly Clarkson says it best
Though there may not be a bottle involved, there are other things that make a young girl nuttier than Jim Carey as Fire Marshall Bill, and most of the time, they are not even realizing that the thing making them the nuttiest is their own perception of their own Selves!! The only one who you need to hook up with right now is your self and not with the idea that you believe you have to make everyone else happy before you are happy. IN fact, you need to learn to be happy with yourself and by yourself. No one on the planet can do that for you as well as you can, you just have to figure out the best way to do that, sweetie.
To you all I say KNOCK IT OFF!!!
No, I do not mean to NOT practice cat fighting (you're going to need that to get along in life later on down the road, girls), but I DO mean that there needs to be known where the fine line between projecting the love you want versus the self love that none of you realizes that you need. Let's learn that lesson first, girls, and that one important thing is that you need to understand that there is no boy alive who can make you feel as worthy as you really are as well as you can. This has nothing to do with being the center of one boy's attention, and nothing to do with your own friends getting your back, and everything to do with the idea that you are here for a specific purpose - a higher purpose - and that one higher purpose has absolutely NOTHING to do with what someone else thinks of you, I promise.
You see, girls, when a boy is born, the world celebrates, but when a little girl is born, no one realizes the depth of her importance in the cycle of life. When a boy is born, the family name is perpetuated, but when a girl is born, the chain of life is continued. You must stop, immediately, believing that your own and only worth is dependent upon what one boy (who is likely as confused as you are) thinks about you. Don't bother yourself with what he thinks, and never, for one moment, believe that without a boy's approval, you are nothing, that life is meant only for you to be here to satisfy what you perceive to be his need, when in reality it is only his waning ego. I swear to you all that your broken heart now is in training for the battles you will come up against in the future, and your broken heart is just the beginning of a life which will be full of both tears and promise.
The hard part is not deciding which side of the kleenex box you will be on, but rather, which battle you choose that will bring you the tears.
Will you decide to excel in your education, or will you rob yourself the benefit of learning all you can, simply to please what it is that you think that one person, no matter who it is, wants. And let me tell you baby girl, it is a waste of your time UNLESS you know now that what you are doing is simply practicing for the life that is ahead of you. You have no idea what lies ahead for you, and right now the most important person in your life is not even yourself, but someone else, and likely it is someone else who will never have the depth of emotion that you carry for them, and unfortunately, it never will be. Your heart is true, and their's is indecisive.
There is so much learning that you must do, and that is only for the day ahead, and you still have no idea of what you really want to be when you grow up. Lemme tell you what, sweetie - right now it seems like the whole world became a gaggle of teenaged boys, so cute with their trendy haircuts and their baggy jeans, but the truth is that they are just as novice at this game of life and Love as you are, and the best measure of control is simply to just not lose control. And that is really very hard.
Be true to you and to hell with the rest of them...
I know- right now your entire world is your friends and what they think of you, but the truth is that these friends are simply and only practice friends. Yes, I know that hurts, but that is the truth. I know this is the truth because though I have reconnected with a WHOLE LOT of my friends, there are many with whom I will never, and it is because they have served me with the lesson that they were supposed to. You, too, will also experience this, and because I know this hurts, I will also tell you that you are meant to be here for a reason that your human minds cannot comprehend.
Being true to you is the hardest thing in the world when you are young, because you want people to love you as you are, and people are unkind- they are unkind as all hell, but the heartache is worth it when you get to be my age- the ripe old age of 41- and you realize that the people who are supposed to be in your life are there because of the ones who are no longer there, as they have served you well enough with the knowledge that you will end up with. You will go through things that you cannot even imagine having the tenacity to deal with, but deal with it you will, because us girls are made up of so much more than only sugar, spice, everything nice.
There will be many battles in life, but at least you get to choose which ones to fight
I am willing to bet that you never even thought about things that way, have you? There is no rule that says that any one of us is required to take on every single little battle that comes our way, and this is where our learning in life thus far comes into play. You don't realize it yet, but you learned something the last time a friend hurt you, the last time the boy that you had a big fat crush on didn't reciprocate the feeling back, when your mom and dad decided that you did not deserve the privilege to have your bad ass cell phone as a convenience rather than the need you placed upon it, did you?
I am willing to bet that the last boy you liked, you are so over that this new boy is really the thing for you, and I KNOW that the next one will make this one look like yesterday's news.
It is your girlfriends, the ones who are willing to tell you off, just like it is, teeth bared, claws out, words unminced, and we do these things for each other because we care, a lot, and we do not want for anyone to be hurt, namely not someone we consider to be a close and dedicated confidante. These are the people who will help us make the difference in our lives, because these are the ones who are not willing to see us hurt over the long haul. Better, I think, that we hurt now, for a moment, than to have to pay for something for a long time after the words are said and the hurt is no longer more than only a memory.
Know now that you are not now nor shall you ever be anyone who is not special
You are special in every single way that you think you are and every way that you have no clue about yet. You were born a girl, and that alone gives you the key to the universe, because we are the vessels through which life eventually comes forth. You hold a special kind of magic, and it is the kind that makes boys swoon when they are supposed to, makes traffic stop because it is commanded by you, and makes the world turn on its heels, just to see what it is that you are doing.
We are not now, nor have we ever been or ever BE here to be in servitude to what the rest of the world, and sometimes, even ourselves, thinks we are here to do.
Greatness is never served up all at one time, ladies
It is served up with a slice of do-do pie, actually, and normally comes in the form of something that we cannot stand. This is when we are called to be the best us that we can be, and if we fail, it doesn't matter, because we have that same chance at greatness every single day of our lives. You are not here to be the cutest girl in school, but here instead to be the best that you can be at being You, and no matter what, that is always the only thing that you can do.
Please stop trying so hard to be loved. You are loved. Maybe not by all the boys, maybe not by all the people who you think are the most important people on the planet who are NOT your family, but I promise you that you are loved. You do not need to try so hard that you end up breaking your own heart, because you are infinitely special, Divine and embraced by the Universe.
Take your place now as the little Goddesses that you are...
I LOVE YOU ALL !!
...Roxanne...
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